Stay Motivated in a Negative Environment
by Rochelle Griffin
When you try to better yourself…whether you want to lose weight, get healthy, or have a goal of any other kind, there’s always the risk that the people you surround yourself with won’t be the most supportive. If that’s the case…if you find yourself in that situation, HOW are you supposed to stay motivated?
Personally I’ve lived this scenario many times over the years and want to share 6 tips that helped me not only overcome the adversity but also be uber successful at the same time.
1. Remember that everyone has opinions.
Yes everyone has opinions, but you aren’t obligated to listen to any of them. I’m serious. It’s not your responsibility to make everyone happy or allow him or her to dictate the direction that your life goes, especially if they aren’t your immediate family. Does this mean that you may have to grow a thick skin? It does. Once you realize that if you ask 10 people for their opinion and that you’ll probably get 10 different answers, you place less weight in the responses.
2. Pay attention to who you surround yourself with.
This is a biggie. Who’s in your inner circle? If it’s negative, critical people, don’t be surprised with the negative, critical “support” you receive. You MUST surround yourself with people who get you…who understand your goals…who support you no matter what the outcome is. Once you find these people, it’s much easier to find success as well.
3. Hire a coach.
This can be the best money every spent. This is someone who WILL keep help you stay on track. This person will also say the hard things that your friends and family often won’t…but that you do need to hear.
Depending on your goals, you may need business coach, a health coach, a fitness coach, etc. When you put skin in the game (aka money,) it’s funny how everything will fall into place.
I’ve had a business coach for the past 3 years. It’s no coincidence that the past 3 years have constituted massive business growth for me…including opening a second successful business and having multiple streams of income. This wouldn’t have happened if I stayed in the “box” everyone was trying to keep me in.
4. Post your “why” everywhere.
I mean it. I’m talking the wallpaper on your smartphone, your bathroom mirror, your computer, inside your refrigerator, wherever you spend the majority of your time. When negativity surrounds you, you need your “why” to ground you and bring you back to reality.
5. Put blinders on.
I wrote an article specifically about this and encourage you to read it. I give tips on how to IGNORE your critics.
6. Set boundaries.
Boundaries were a biggie for me. There was a point where I really didn’t have any. I allowed people to call, text, email me at all hours of the day and night. I allowed people to take advantage of me. One of the best books…and I’ve recommended it many times…is called Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend. Fantastic read! It gave me the tools that I needed to set boundaries in my life. Currently I have no issues with boundaries.
Now I already predict the main question that I’ll get: But what if the negative environment is my family?
I promise that these tips work with your family as well, particularly #6. I know because again, I’ve lived it. My extended family didn’t understand initially when I left nursing to become an entrepreneur. My extended family doesn’t always understand when I say no to the dinner they’ve prepared because it’s something that has gluten in it. So I’ve learned to set boundaries AND still love my family.
Whatever your goals are, if they are important enough to you, you can absolutely achieve them. Adversity is a normal part of success. Consider it the “gauntlet” of fire. If you put one of these tips into play, you’ll lessen your stress. I challenge you, however, to do ALL of the tips. If you do these, you’ll be unstoppable regardless of the environment around you!A Toast to Your Health,
She founded both GoFitCoach, Inc. & Your Best Life, Inc. with her husband Keith after stepping onto the edge of financial & physical ruin. Having experienced a complete turn-around, they now desire to give hope & support to those who are dissatisfied with their current situation.
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